Before I get a whole load of backlash from the controversial title, no I am not here to tell you how to be “beautiful” as if I know how to from example and there is no other way. You wanna know why? There is no specific definition of the term, beautiful. There are so many varied shapes, sizes, skin tones, heights, personalities and facial features shared between all of us on this rather large Earth and that uniqueness we all hold individually is what is beautiful. Arrogance is not my cup of tea AT ALL – there is a very fine line between arrogance and confidence. There is no way I would write a post in order to bash you in any way shape or form, anything along those lines is non-existent as part of my personality. You don’t need “fixing”. The point I am trying to get across through writing this post is this:
I want your gorgeous self to look within as well as on your outer surface to discover your personal definition of beauty because it exists, whether or not you have found it yet.
Photography: Bethany Sandland
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The recognition of someone else’s beauty is DEFINITELY not an absence of your own.
I’ve heard very similar variations of this quote across social media a lot and as true as it is, I think we all know how difficult it can be to have it stored into our brains whilst scrolling through your feed or Explore page on Instagram. However, I’d encourage you to see it all as inspiration. Yes, she may have your dream body or glowing, clear skin but instead of being bitter, why not allow that to encourage you to go and sign up for that gym membership you may have been putting off? Or why not go and educate yourself on your skin type and possibly some new products to add to your skincare routine? The way I see it, being able to notice, highlight and appreciate someone else’s beauty or success instead of letting envy get the better of you is honestly a skill and true reflection of yourself. There’s no harm in giving someone else a reason to feel good about how a certain lip shade looks on them or even something more out of the ordinary as the actual shape of their lips! It may seem weird at first but that person may class their lips as a flaw or insecurity and that “weird compliment” could be just what they needed to hear. Not that you should seek confirmation from others in terms of your appearance but you could truly make someone’s day and push them in the direction of accepting and feeling great about themselves. I mean, if you are able to do that with a simple tweet or comment, why wouldn’t you? Making the conscious decision to selflessly go ahead and compliment someone else does not devalue your own beauty in any way, if anything it does the opposite! In fact, that my friends is also step towards being beautiful from within.
Being a Size 6 isn’t the only way.
Size 6 bodies are beautiful. Sure, everyone has their own personal preferences but despite that and coming from someone who is a Size 8 currently, I believe I have a just as beautiful body as someone who is a Size 18. Saying something like this may be cliché to some people but the world we live in today can really make it seem as though if you don’t have a particular body type, whether that is slim, hourglass or even “thick”, you must want to or need to do something about it. Not at all the case. I’d say I am more on the slim side however I get style inspiration from people with a range of body types. Two people with two different body types create two different and unique ways of wearing one outfit. In my opinion, that is truly amazing and that’s one of the reasons why I fell in love with fashion. Me and you could buy the same dress but our personal style adds something completely individual and equally flattering. Don’t get me wrong, I believe there is nothing wrong with wanting to change your body, naturally or even surgically, everyone has the right to do what makes them feel their best self and who is anyone else to fault that? But of course, don’t feel like it is a requirement to please anyone or anything (society included), possibly look at it as building on top of an already solid foundation and always know that there is no “perfect body” that we should all strive towards. If we all looked exactly the same how boring would we all be as a collective. Do what makes you feel like the best version of yourself and always appreciate what you have in the present moment as someone else may dream of having what you have. Some out there are paralysed and don’t have the freedom to walk freely or even possibly have arms or legs like you. You are blessed regardless.
Don’t be afraid to know you are beautiful.
It has taken me a while to come to terms with fully accepting myself for everything I was born with and am today and of course, absolutely everyone has at least one insecurity. I’m very much aware that I’m still in my teens and so I haven’t fully developed yet and have my whole life ahead of me, sometimes though, I can unneccesarily be my worst critic. I can imagine that many people including myself tend to compare themselves to others whether that is in terms of their physical appearance or even success and we all have off-moments, days or even weeks. What we do also have though, is our individuality. No one out there is exactly like you, no one has the exact same story as you and no one has the exact same future ahead as you. That is something that should always be noted and perceived as beautiful. Someone doing the things that you hope to be doing someday is what is meant for them at their point in life, what is meant for them is what is meant for them and what is meant for you right now is what is meant for you. Who knows what blessings the future holds for you. Right now, instead of fixating on what you don’t have and any flaws you think you may have, focus on what you do have and what you truly love about yourself because that’s okay and healthy to do so. What isn’t healthy is knowing what you love about yourself and thinking it makes you better than anyone. Loving yourself and knowing your beauty doesn’t make you any better or any further above someone is self-confidence. If you truly are self-confident and well, beautiful, you would be able to praise other’s confidence and beauty knowing you both hold just as much value and neither is no more beautiful than the other, just two unique forms.
There is so much more I could’ve said on this topic but I thought I’d just touch on a few points that came to my mind first in terms of what I feel could help you strive towards a place of true beauty. I hope this was interesting to read and got you thinking in some way.
Jacket – River Island (bought years ago but similar here)
Bodysuit – Topshop (bought last year but similar here)
Jeans – Topshop (here)
Shoes – Missguided (bought earlier this year but very similar here)
What do you feel makes someone beautiful? What is your definition?